Disappeared wedding ceremonies
It is hard to imagine these days the bride every morning since the courtship until the day of marriage, left the house and wailed, wept, mourned her virginity, beauty, youth.
However, as hardly seem possible now, many of the customs and rituals that were once an integral part of the wedding ritual, and now either forgotten or lost, or reinterpreted ...
Mockingbird - is not only the unexpected arrival of the groom, accompanied by relatives to the bride's house to woo in allegorical form (to show themselves but to see the goods). Courtship was that the starting point from which literally began rebirth main participants of the wedding ceremony, the bride and groom. Since most prosvataniya on the bride (sgovorenku) imposes restrictions on movement, its living space dramatically narrowed to the limits of his parents' house. If a girl came out and then only when accompanied by friends and, in fact, only to invite guests to the wedding. Bride are also excluded from all the household chores, she becomes incapacitated. So there was a gradual "dehumanization" necessary for the birth of the new man has a family.
After two or three days after the betrothal the groom and his close relatives again come to the bride's house, and now the bride, during which the girl has to show itself in all its glory and to show all their skills and abilities, just as the bridegroom, which adorns the front of all assembled. After that, the groom's mother carefully examines and evaluates the bride's dowry. Everything that happens is necessarily accompanied by songs and lamentations - often performed by the bride's girlfriends. But the girl could refuse the marriage, not coming to the groom.
Shortly before the scheduled date of the wedding was going Handshake or binge, an event which finally consolidated the arrangement of the wedding. Handshake after the rejection of marriage was impossible. The bride and groom were seated next to a table and styled in the songs, which were filled with friends of the bride.
And what do the bride and groom themselves? The bride is not razgovorivaet and wails, and in some homes and completely vylnitsu name that "howls," that is performed prichety and groom gasps and cries. And, despite the apparent groom's activity, his constant movement (he comes to the bride's house almost every day after Handshake on "pobyvashki", "kisses", "provedki"), yet he remains passive: for it is said, and are doing everything in-laws, relatives and cronies.
Do this ritual also disappeared? The fact that a bachelorette party in Russia - is not only a farewell gatherings bride with her friends on the eve of the wedding, but also the production of "Beauty" ( "will"), unraveling braids bride washing in the bath, destruction or transfer of "beauty" girlfriend or fiance. Maiden's "beauty" - the last thing that binds the bride from her girlhood. It could be a tow, tree, decorated with ribbons and rags, a wreath, a handkerchief. After manufacturing the "beauty" of her burning or bride handing her close friend. Whatever the subject, symbolizing the "beauty", he invariably associated with the head, fine hair, and the hair - a kind of personification of the girl's beauty, will. With the destruction or distribution of "beauty" allegorically girl deprived of girlhood. Also, the bride might cut off her hair, and passed it to the groom. A ritual bath in the bath finally completed the process: the bride became "neither alive nor dead," and in this state it handed to the groom, the negotiations are, and the bride and her friends fought hard.
Immediately after the wedding the bride updo moloduhi: braided two braids and covered with headscarves or just "okruchivaet like a woman": braided in two braids hair tightened on the back of her head in a bun, and on top put on a headdress of married women (ochipok, ochtok , basting). From that moment on the bride's hair could only see her husband: show bareheaded strange men was tantamount to treason, and tear off women headdress - an insult. Hairstyles change means moving the girls to the power of her husband, and is the formation of a new image of man, his rebirth in a new status. The girl begins to "come to life": returns to it's ability to move independently and the ability to do everything with your hands: the bride entered the house, he begins to actively develop its space, throws rye, puts korovay throws belt and others.
A special ceremony has been dedicated to "inflatability" bride, when the young come from the wedding to the groom's house. This ceremony was endowed with a double meaning for the bride, it meant the return of view; bride, continuing to come to life, are now looking at all other eyes, and it was kind of getting to know the favorite for the bride, as she was now different. Some details of the rite be read erotic meaning, when the bride "reveal": father-boyfriend or lifts the hem of his whip, tongs, cake or a stick. Or put on the bride's head cake without stuffing, symbolizing a child, and wrapped it in a handkerchief, put it in a closet, where the young apart from all ate first and then spent their wedding night. In some areas, it was the custom to arrange bed newlyweds in the cage or the crib, which is associated with the idea of fertility, childbirth.
"Otvodiny" (a joint visit to the young bride's parents) marks the end of the wedding as a special condition for all participants. This element of the wedding ceremony is especially important for the bride, who comes for a short time and as a guest, which underlines the irreversibility of all the transformations that have occurred to her during the wedding. However, there are also other data about the bride ties with their home. For example, in Voronezh, young women during the first year of marriage lived with his mother and was engaged in spinning for their future needs.