How to love women
Men - unpretentious beings in the emotional sphere, a normal guy has a lot to endure for the sake of a cute companion, which he likes and sex. Women are more demanding, but also suitable to him a set of keys. If you - and confuse man read this guide - you're already halfway to success, tender leggy blonde, children postcard with your eyes.
Agree with her social roles
There is a woman with a Jewish mother complex. There are girls-children-eternal. There are girls, girls and their guys in skirts. There are department heads, unable to make coffee. There clinically diffident models and charming ugly, envious of all. There are smart modest socialites and communicative durischi with a doctoral degree. You need the kind of woman with whom you have the same understanding of social roles, and your it.
There is nothing to be ashamed of when she offers: you have to dress up and pay for an apartment, I'm home and do not deny you in bed - and you agree. There is nothing wrong when she warns: I set up the child and give up the work, plus I need a nanny to sleep and look decent. This may be at least an option, "let me otpishu you my aunt's apartment, learning Ruby and I will walk naked, just whip me often by the pope to the blood." The only criterion for the eligibility of any relationship option - it is the agreement of both parties.
The lion's share of deep family conflicts due to the following: spouse waited from each other that the partner was willing to give, that is, at the beginning of the relationship, they just do not agree about what it will create a shared future, and have relied on intuition. And the intuition against people who do not know from the cradle, often messy. Therefore, make it clear that it is ready to give you and that he wants to hear from you, correlate with their wishes and make your own conclusions as to whether it is the fate of you or in front of some problems. Such conversations - it is not "trade", which condemned the romantic stereotypes, and the normal steps for the construction of a harmonious relationship. Allah does not reset your family happiness on a silver platter, but he gave you brains and languages to negotiate it.
Proposed solutions First
Gender anxious women are worried about the fact that for them someone will decide, take away their right to self-determination and put on the rack "quietly", and there to close the wall. I'm not talking about that. This refers to the good habit in situations where you need to make a choice, determined by faster than she, and offer your own version. This does not mean that your word is not discussed. Just like women do not mumble. Even if love, then most of the maternal instinct, and sooner or later exhausted permanent adoption of decisions wife tempted to fall on the chest of the authoritarian coach bobsled.
Bad dialogue, "- Honey, let's go somewhere else for dinner. - Where do you think, my dear, I do not care, I can at least have the nails after the meetings in the head office. " Good dialogue, "- Honey, let's go somewhere. - Come on, I just saw The Village new Ethiopian cuisine restaurant, where waiters negros in one loincloths read caste, how do you? ".
Do not disappear without warning
I understand the constant reports about what you're doing, humiliate free man. On the other hand, is not that what you are doing on Twitter? Here some ancient secret curse: once you are late for an hour longer than usual, do not pick up the phone for a long time did not respond to messages - even the most sober cold-blooded phlegmatic woman begins to paint is like you swallowed the snake moved wagon drunken chef to death hammered orehokolkoy, Vera Brezhnev drove past and falling in love, forever taken away from you to her in a gold Cadillac. We can not do anything with it. Women worry, it's in their nature. Exit - to warn her that you can linger and go offline, solving questions, even if the chances of it are scanty.
Darn things in the house
The magic of driving the nail and changing pad in the mixer for a woman is equivalent to the awe that is experiencing an average man, watching as the mountain of dirty vegetables, bloody bones and obscure herbs one hour turns into a delicious three-course meal.
Men want to worship the mechanics -zhelanie, immortalized in the classic pornosyuzhete about plumbing. And even if the pope with his grandfather as a child did not drive you to the workbench in the garage, see Guide to the Internet and try to be a handyman better than to mutter "I do not know, somewhere phone electrician mother enrolled on the wallpaper in the hallway." Practical knowledge of how to cope with everyday life, are part of the male eroticism and command respect from those who such things are not given or are not interested in (most of the girls) in principle.
Only the best alternative - "Listen, take the money in the bedside table and order the toilet that you will like, together with the assembly, and that I am not so strong in the aesthetics of the interiors, like you, along with his shoes in front of the shopping center buy."
Be proactive sensitivity
proactive - it is the antonym of reactive, ie you do not respond, and act proactively and pre-emption. Women more often than men, mood changes, they attach more importance to things about which man would be forgotten in a minute. Therefore monitorte this sensitive system, as if it was a delicate instrument, which has a major impact weather, light, news, gossip and generally anything. As soon as the woman's behavior begins to deviate from the usual - chatterbox long silent, active hangs in his reverie, quiet breaks down on the dog, and the leader of the opinions coming out of the bathroom with red eyes - ask if everything is OK, if anything, do not wait until it happens zaoret "I have three months of depression, if she died, you would not notice." The idea that her partner's mood is just as important for her in itself will warm woman. Then, perhaps, you do not even have to listen to passages like "Madonna turned 55, like my mother, my mother looks a lot worse, and I'm so will you leave me for a student," "Chapicuy sad, I read in the Internet, he probably cancer "and" I just realized that I was worthless nonentity, it explains everything. "
to critics, it did not look criticism
Even if you are caught not very smart instance, and you can not leave her because Preta on the shape of her legs and the smell of her perfume, to correct the behavior of the favorite for the best possible way, so as not to hurt her and not to provoke caustic remarks in his address. Any good initiative with a doubtful outcome is best to praise first, and then gently point out the flaws (the initiative, in any case, not women).
Bad example: "The whole office is now laughing at me because of your crooked land. Ordered normal, we replace them at your and played a courier boy a little kick is not enough ". A good example: "Very tasty apple pie, I ate a whole! No, no, I'm not from discontent swelled, I just have allergies! And can the next time the same, but with a pear? You are so good! ".
It appears the little courtesies, even if too lazy to
is the color of a waste of money, and she loves them? Stepping on your throat (woman infamous miser) and buy Gerber at least once a week. You a hundred rubles costs, and her joy in a thousand. Get used to give small gifts for no reason, and eventually the very fact of giving will bring you as much pleasure as the fact of receiving it.
For a small sign of attention and memory concerns - and more realistic pace, recording in the phone's calendar - all dates which it considers relevant. Day of your love, the day of our first meeting, the day when you have gathered when you offered her hand and heart, wedding day, kids' birthdays, her mother, her puppy, her birthday, Valentine's Day, at last. Always have on hand some decent gift, at worst, a certificate perfumery network (you know how many there are decent spirits, huh? $ 80), it will save you a lot of nerves.
Praise her appearance, even if're lying
our society standards suggest that a woman should look good, and this installation penetrates into the consciousness of all women - even yours, that sniffs at the mention of the fashion and in the opera, his hips, pushing carts about feminism. I understand that a new haircut, and even more, a new stacking or bracelet, which she chose four hours notice is difficult during the crisis surrounding Syria, market volatility options and other important things. But you really try.
If she has an innate taste and dressed so inconspicuous that you can not tell her pastel cardigans from each other, give yourself repeating reminder to make her a compliment, encoded as something like "take vitamins". If she bought went scarlet skirt a la cabaret fishnet stockings in a large, in which each of her legs look like ham in a string bag, and is going to go into this with you at the reception Bar Association, resist the harsh statements.
Bad example: "I see you finally got the courage to go to a sex shop." A good example: "Wow, it's safe, I stood up, and my colleagues will rise, I will go mad with jealousy, do not be so cruel to me. And here I see a cool black dress, we're in it for the dance went, remember how wonderful it was? .. ".
Remember, any change in appearance indicative of a desire to please you, so in general it is positive, even if sometimes you wear a pull on her head package. And the belief that her turns you like, directly affects its looseness in sex.
Mark the things that you do not ever
This is somewhat common with claim 1, but there are nuances. A number of things you think the little things, not even worth mentioning, as it shakes them, and vice versa. Therefore, the mark once your fad, whatever furnish their arrogance: childhood trauma, allergies, I become irritated by this, it makes me unhappy, voices in my head are not told. And I'll never wear your handbag, to walk your dog, go with you for my gear, arrange joint family dinners for our parents.
Why is it important to say about this time, and firmly? Because, it is worth a couple of times to give up out of politeness, and then take time off, and she begins to think that you no longer love her. And the fact that you love her - is the cornerstone, the primary element, the base and the rod of your relationship to it. This is what your woman, in principle, should never doubt.